Yesterday I took up the challenge to do something good for someone else every day for 2 weeks and see what the change brings about in me.
I was less than thrilled.
I felt a bit put upon, actually. I wasn’t too busy, or too shy or non-imaginative. I was just too lazy to be bothered with putting myself out there. After all, I thought, I already do nice things all the time, don’t I? I … I … Hmmm…. I started thinking, and realized that I don’t see enough people outside my home to really make a difference, and I take advantage of those that are in my home.
This was the perfect challenge for me!
I silently thanked my challenge-er, and went about… Worrying. About what was a worthy way to do good in someone else’s life. I worried. And worried. I thought about it and threw away idea after idea.
I started to feel dejected and then overwhelmed. So I took a nap. And during that nap, all my worries went away, and when I woke up, I forgot I had a task to do. I just started to think about what my would make things easier for my husband that day. He was in meetings, and on conference calls all day, and I could tell that he was tense. (He works from home.)
Without thinking about it, I cleaned up our room, made our bed, organized his shoes, ties, and clothes, and then set off to do some dishes. Now some people do this as a matter of course. I… Do not. But here is the thing. I didn’t do it to say LOOK AT ME! I did it with the attitude of gratitude for what he does for our family and for me. I did it with the, what would make him happy, kind of attitude, and it wasn’t a stretch at all! Through the day, I thought about what would make his life easier, and the dishes got done, the laundry got organized, and dinner got made.
He has no idea that I did this for him. I didn’t tell him of my experiment. I just noticed that he was more relaxed. When we got in the hot tub, he was already more relaxed than earlier that day. And… I felt recharged!
today is day 2, and I am still looking forward to doing things for my husband, but I am noticing how I have served myself. I have energized and recharged, just by putting myself out there on purpose. It’s gonna be a good few weeks.